We wear many hats through out our day and we are many things to many people.
Often we identify so strongly with a hat that we think we 'are' the hats. I believe this is not so. We have choices in anything we do in life; we have choices to put hats on and to take hats of.
Sometime we want to wear someone else's hat even so that hat does not quit fit, but it seams to look good to us so we want it.
More often or not we suffer through wearing hats, which look good rather than feel good. We buy things because we think it will make our lives better.
Many of us find that making things contains satisfaction, we touch something within us which makes us feel good on a level we sometimes cannot explain or understand.
Making Sense of Loss and Suffering
For those who are grieving serious losses or adversity I bring concept in Dr. Frankl`s work to mind, who wrote,
D = S – M → Despair equals suffering without meaning
When we make things we have meaning, we connect with people, it gives us a purpose. Producing art, losing oneself in the 'doing' the 'NOW' touches the Self deep inside.
I use hats as my spiritual practice every day. Hats for me are a metaphor and I ever so often check what I keep 'under' my hat. I try not to talk 'through' my hat and I express gratitude daily for my 'HATS' in my life.
As I go through my day I reflect on my hats and use them to aid my day.
So what are some of those hats?
Gratitude hat: Helps me remember to write a letter to someone who made a difference in my life, whom I never properly thanked. Letters may even be to people who are already dead. I look for the good things, which happen in my day when I sit and drink a coffee
Serving Hat: I find that when I feel needy for things I put on my serving hat and find something to do that will benefit others. We all like to have a good listener, or receive a warm touch.
The sad grieving Hat: All losses involve grief. I as many others have lost much and I had to learn to be willing to cry, honor, and let go a little bit each day. Not holding on to the sadness and loss was and is a practice. Embracing and nurturing the love and memories instead is a practice too. Be a witness and companion to someone else who is grieving can be a great gift.
Hat of Forgiveness: Forgiveness is a hard one because we all often think we are RIGHT. This might be so but holding on to resentments, is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” (Author unknown).
Prayer and meditation Hat: I have heard that Prayer is speaking with God, and Meditation is listening. Taking time to quiet my mind and connecting with my innermost self grows my capacity to live in a peaceful, grounded, and loving place.................
May you find the hats, which truly fit and suit you, as it is your head they are on and not on someone else.
Have a hatty day!